Tuesday, May 15, 2007

There are some days when I feel like a puppy at the pound, waiting for adoption. "Pick me!" I would plead with my sad doe eyes. "Pick me, you know you want to!" It's funny how there are all these mixed motions about whether or not you are good enough to be picked. I wonder what it's like for the IPs, how do they know when they pick a girl that that girl is the right one for them? Is it based on the photo? The answers to the survey? The GPA, ACT, and SAT scores? It's odd to think that we are reduced to stats on a few sheets of paper and based on that the IPs are supposed to know if we (the donors) are right for them. It's not any more intimate than pulling up to a drive through and placing your order. Oddly enough, when you do get the chance to actually talk to an IP, it really makes you feel real. It makes what you are about to do feel real. It makes everything less sterile and cold and more like you are helping out friends. It's good knowing that you are not just your first inital and a handful of numbers.

Do you think that it's fair for a donor to be listed with more than one agency? I know that there are quite a few donors out there that are listed with more than one agency. Is it wrong? I don't know. It might just be creating more exposure for the donor. Is it fair? I would think that since it is a first come first served type of business then it can't be unfair. Kind of that "you snoozed, you lose" type of deal--as mean as that sounds. When a donor is listed in multiple locations, but for the same compensation, I think it helps to off the IPs an alternative if that particular agency is not working for them. I believe that you can find the right donor but that the right agency doesn't always go hand in hand. I am all about options.

The sun is calling, that's all for today.

4 comments:

calliope said...

glad you are posting again!
I am a potential donor waiting for THE call and it suuuuuuuuucks.

Bloggeroo said...

Like Calliope, I am glad you are posting again! I very much enjoy reading about your journey. Also, I wanted to let you know I created a list of every egg donor agency and fertility clinic in the US. It's so hard to donate eggs, I figured it might as well be easy to learn how to become an egg donor.

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grad3 said...

I would like to say to you for all the women who have not been able to... thank you. Thank you for even making this an option for us.

My RE just recommended to ED to me. One of the things that I thought was, if we do this how could I ever say thank you? I would want to let her know that she is helping a young couple (I am 29), who have a good marriage, are educated, prepared to care for a baby, and who are just wanting a family and having a lot more difficulty then even imagined.

I feel like this is my oportunity, so thank you, thank you, thank you for allowing this to be an option to women like me...